BOOK: Parting is not Goodbye ... Coping with Grief in Creative Healthy Ways by Kelly Osmont and Marilyn McFarlane
ISBN 0-941211-01-0
Nobility Press, P.O. Box 17603, Portland, Oregon 97217

Poem taken from the above book entitled:

"Please See Me Through My Tears"
by: Kelly Osmont

You asked, "How are you doing?"
As I told you, tears came to my eyes...and you
looked away and quickly began to talk again. All the
attention you had given me drained away.

“How am I doing?...I do better when people listen,
though I may shed a tear or two.
This pain is indescribable. If you've never known it you
cannot fully understand.
Yet I need you.
When you look away,
When I'm ignored,
I am again alone with it.
Your attention means more than you can ever know.

Really, tears are not a bad sign, you know!
They're nature's way of helping me heal...
They relieve some of the stress of sadness.

I know you fear that asking how I'm doing brings me sadness
...but you're wrong.
The memory of my loved one's death will always be with me,
Only a thought away.
My tears make my pain more visible to you, but you did not
give me the was already there.

When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless, not knowing
what to do?
You are not helpless,
And you don't need to do a thing but be there.
When I feel your permission to allow my tears to flow,
you've helped me.
You need not speak. Your silence as I cry is all I need.
Be not fear.

Listening with your heart to "how I am doing”
relieves the pain,
for when the tears can freely come and go, I feel lighter.

Talking to you releases what I've been wanting to say aloud,
clearing space
for a touch of joy in my life.

I'll cry for a minute or two...
and then I'll wipe my eyes,
and sometime you'll even find I'm laughing later.
When I hold back the tears, my throat grows tight,
my chest aches, my stomach knot...
because I'm trying to protect you from my tears.
Then we both, because my pain is held inside,
a shield against our closeness...and you,
because suddenly we're distant.

So please, take my hand and see me through my tears...
then we can be close again.

by: Kelly Osmont

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